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Does Networking Actually Build a Network?
A professional network is always in one of three stages: climbing, paused, grounded. Recognising your own is more useful than any generic advice, because the three problems aren't solved the same way.
Published 21 October 2021 · revised 16 August 2026
First of all
Why the word has a bad reputation
A good share of the people who say they're networking actually just want to sell. They have an ulterior motive, and it shows: the interactions sound fake, and that feeling rubs off on anyone else who's trying to build something serious.
How many times has someone introduced themselves to you only to pitch their own business? There you go. That's what people remember when they hear the word.
The shift in goal
Not selling: building relationships. It isn't a moral statement, it's a practical observation — whoever stops focusing on selling usually sells more.
Which also means accepting that results aren't immediate. Whoever promises otherwise is selling something.
The diagnosis
Climbing, paused, grounded
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Climbing
Energy, direction, an attitude that invites others to trust you. The network grows because you invest in it, and you keep learning — reading, listening, putting yourself in new situations.
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Paused
The most common stage, and the most insidious: you manage the clients you have, you do the minimum, you get average results. You're not growing, you're slowly slipping — and you can't see it.
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Grounded
Typical of beginners: no immediate results, and the conclusion that "it's not for me". The causes are almost always concrete — wrong target, wrong group, wrong tool — and they can be fixed.
If you're paused, the fix is simple and tiring: put one-on-one meetings back on your calendar and start showing up again. If you're grounded, before trying again it's worth understanding which of the three mistakes you made.
One word at a time
Why "paused" is the natural state, and not your fault
The 2021 article blamed complacency. There's a less moralistic, more useful explanation.
The law
In the absence of a mechanism that establishes who moves first, mutual waiting is the system's state of equilibrium. It isn't laziness: it's the most rational position for everyone, simultaneously. It's the First Law, the Law of Inaction.
That's why a "paused" network isn't an exception to fix with willpower: it's where every network ends up, if nobody keeps it moving.
How you get out of it
Someone tips the balance first, by design, not by hope: it's the Second Law, and the position has a name its author coined — the Dispari, a term that doesn't even translate into English.
And for the movement not to stop after the first round, the gesture needs to be recorded and reciprocated: the Reciprocity Engine. Inside a company, the person who keeps that routine going is the Referral Director.
No network stops because of laziness. It stops because stopping suits everyone.
The first step
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